My Story

Hello, I’m Shanita

For years, I struggled with my emotional, mental, and physical health and felt stuck in a destructive cycle.   I wrestled with how to heal and be free from all the emotional turmoil I was experiencing.   I was not only suffering from health issues, but I was dealing with the betrayal from the one I was closest to at that time.  The one thing that I did not give up on was my spiritual health.  Even though, at times, I thought God was not listening to me, I still prayed often. 

Being a people pleaser caused me to neglect myself, and I stopped caring about my life.  I knew I needed a change but did not take the time to work on my life for that change to happen.  For most of my adult life, I struggled because I was too busy being what others wanted me to be instead of discovering myself for myself.  

What Kept Me in a Bad Cycle

There were a few issues that kept me cycling in the same place.  First, besides being a people pleaser, I was always fearful and angry (which I hid behind a mask).  Because of unprocessed childhood trauma, every decision I made was rooted in fear.   Like most people, I just shoved things down and kept going with a smile, which kept me in a destructive cycle.  I spent my life trying (and failing miserably) to make others happy.  Unfortunately, I had little self-awareness then and no direction for changing and growing. 

Like most of you, I looked good to the outside world.  I was fine, and all was well, but internally I was dying.  I wanted to change, needed change, and even prayed for change. 

Because I spent so many years becoming for others, there was no sense of “me.”  It was not until later that I realized I had never developed my identity because of early abuse.  When I hit rock bottom, I made radical changes and began to work on myself and my life.  My rock bottom came when dealing with relational, physical, and mental health issues.  Attending therapy is where I started (EMDR was a game changer). 

Fast Forward to Today

Going on my healing journey was life-changing for me.  Today, I experience wholeness like never before and am free from triggers.  Despite my circumstances, I enjoy internal peace and joy and can fully help others heal.